People who struggle with low self-worth and feelings of inadequacy have a difficult time seeing themselves in an accurate or realistic way. They view themselves as not good enough, struggle with self-doubt, and are not confident when they approach new situations or people. They may fear being criticized or rejected by others due to their perceived lack of value. These feelings often persist even when they have succeeded or when they receive positive feedback from other people.

Understanding Low Self-Worth and Inadequacy

Low self-worth stems from various experiences and influences throughout a person's life. Childhood experiences usually play a significant role in shaping self-perception. Critical, abusive, or neglectful parenting, bullying, and traumatic events can all contribute to the development of feelings of insecurity and inadequacy.

People with low self-worth often have a strong self-critic who makes them feel badly about themselves. Their critic may focus on one or all aspects of their lives, telling them that “You are unlovable”, “No one likes you”, or “You did a terrible job”. Understandably, this leaves the individual feeling small and ashamed. The person may subsequently struggle to assert themselves, fearing criticism or rejection, or avoid opportunities for growth and success due to a core sense that they are undeserving or incapable.

The Role of Emotion Focused Therapy in Transforming Low Self-Worth

Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT) is an approach for treating low self-worth, feelings of inadequacy, and self-criticism. In EFT, we will work together to identify and understand how your self-critic developed, and work to develop a healthier relationship with your critic (either by setting empowered boundaries or developing self-compassion). We will collaborate to transform core feelings of inadequacy, insecurity, and shame so that you do not continue feeling small and incapable. The goal in EFT is to engage in emotional healing so that you can get unstuck from old ways of perceiving yourself that are no longer accurate and holding you back from living a more fulfilling life.

Reaching Out

For those searching for psychotherapy services for low self-worth, my practice in Toronto, Ontario offers specialized treatment using Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT). This approach addresses the root causes of low self-worth and helps individuals heal their feelings of inadequacy. Contact me today to learn more about how EFT can help you transform your relationship with yourself.